We’re at the end of a great 10-day holiday in Portugal, but I have to admit, I’m ready to get back. We booked this trip before the prospect of the relocation came about. And ever since it did, that’s all we’ve focused on; the package, the conditions of the move, the US education and healthcare systems…big things that take thought, consideration and planning.
When the holiday finally came around, we were relieved to have something a little less scary to think about. Since we’ve been here, the most detailed planning has gone into which water park to go to. And the most tactical decision we’ve made has been choosing which one of the daily toddler tantrums to play the ice cream card. We’ve only got this right on a couple of days.
But now we’ve had this break, we can’t wait to take our finger off the pause button and hit play again. Chase up the visa process, get our house on the rental market, shortlist schools, etc.
Earlier today Alex asked me if I think I’ll get homesick when we’re in the US. Instinctively I said no. Of course I’m going to miss the people I love and care most about, and home happens to be where they are. But I’m not patriotic, proud of or fiercely loyal to London, or the UK.
I’ve always figured that for many people, being homesick goes beyond missing the people they’ve left behind – it’s the familiar sights, sounds and smells, that make it unmistakably their home. I can’t ever remember being away for so long that I longed to get back. I lived in France for a year when I was at University but I was too pissed on cheap wine most of the time to reflect on my innermost feelings.
So I reckon that I’ll miss people but not home. That would make me peoplesick, not homesick. Are the two mutually exclusive? I doubt it, but it makes me feel better to think I may suffer from a mutated strand of homesickness that only affects a small minority. And I just made it up, so my rules apply.
I’d love to hear from anyone who has made a big move and experienced peoplesickness, or the more common strand of homesickness. It would be good to have some of your recommended rescue remedies at hand, as and when the symptoms creep in.